don't blame people for their trauma

     Training yourself into magick, and rewriting your story, is both about your thoughts, and your words. You must watch how you think, and talk about, yourself. As I stated in my book Magick Where You’re At, “...every moment you must choose to be an optimist, with whatever your situation. Magick works on belief, and optimism is a state of mind. Many times people are not aware of the words they are using, of the dis-empowering stance they take in their language, or the reality that words are spells. Words are the verbal expression of thoughts. People are also not aware that they let their thoughts rule their minds, and if their words are disempowered, chances are their thoughts are as well. Your words are powerful, and you should watch what you say, and how you say it. Be aware of the web you are spinning, because, like a spider, it is sure that you will be living right in the middle of it.” (Cicchelli, 2016).
     The idea that I am really trying to convey is that our world is created by our words and thoughts. I am in no way, however, suggesting that people who experience trauma in life are responsible for it. This is a popular belief thrown around in various spiritual circles. I don’t subscribe to this motto because it is unhelpful, and usually makes the person suffering from trauma feel like it’s their fault. This is counter productive. Trauma happens. A person who experiences trauma shouldn’t be blamed for their reality. At the same time, it is of benefit not to let trauma become the defining story that gets repeated time, and time again. Even if it happens over and over again, it is best to stop telling the story. In fact, let this be the moment that you take inventory of the stories that you tell about yourself.
     Now, if that story that you tell over and over again is being utilized to encourage social change, then it becomes a position of positivity. By making the trauma story a platform for change, it is a source of power, and a catalyst for shifts in consciousness. The story that you need to stop telling is the one you use to prove to your friends and family that life just never works for you. By believing that something always happens to you, you will reinforce it, and it will continue to happen. Once you stop telling the story, and train yourself out of disempowering thoughts and words, you will find that your life changes, and that thing that always happens, won’t. This isn’t necessarily easy to do at first, and I don’t want you to beat yourself up if you don’t master it immediately. It is a gradual process that you engage with. I still find myself learning new ways to reinterpret reality, and shift my consciousness. It’s a journey, try to enjoy it.